Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Self Esteem vs. Self Compassion

Self Esteem vs. Self Compassion

We have all heard about self-esteem and the pros and cons of either having too much or not enough, but here is a different take ~ Self-Compassion. I like this blog post because it links back to Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) techniques, as well as, methods we use in Positive Psychology: e.g., being mindful.

Check it out:
http://blog.pickcrew.com/truth-about-self-esteem/


self-compassion

Tell me what you think? What this blog helpful? Does it send the right message to help you in your search of balance over the self?

Friday, July 25, 2014

The-5-Most-Popular-Pieces-I-Have-Ever-Written by Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener

Check out the most popular blog posts by the "Indiana Jones" of Positive Psychology:  Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener.



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The 5 Most Popular Pieces I Have Ever Written

Over the years there have been a few pieces of writing I have done that have really captured public interest. Here is a greatest hits of sorts of topics ranging from revenge to happiness. I hope you enjoy them and share them with others:

1. What happy people do differently:

 In this cover article from Psychology Today co-author Todd Kashdan and I offer a new take on happiness. 


2. Revenge is good for you:

Everyone knows that revenge is bad. Except for when it is good. 



3. 5 Myths about positive psychology:

Because it is positive people want to believe in positive psychology. Although there are many terrific scientific findings emerging from this field there are some that have been mis-interpreted. 


4. Are hook-ups psychologically healthy?

I wrote an uncharacteristic piece on sex just to see how popular a topic it is. More than 80 thousand people read the post and the number grows daily. Read it to see what's so tantalizing! 


5. Your happiest days are behind you. 

In this TEDx talk I argue that the past is an overlooked repository of happiness. I also have the opportunity to tell one of my favorite stories:




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Sunday, July 6, 2014

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Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Are you a humble leader?

Moral wisdom for the modern world
by Michael Austin

Humility: Humility is a trait worth having.
Published on June 27, 2012 by Michael W. Austin in Ethics for Everyone
*The violet is a symbol for humility, in some traditions.

Recent studies show that humility is connected with many forms of pro-social behavior. While some misunderstand humility as low self-esteem or self-denigration, a proper conception of this virtue has both self-regarding and other-regarding components. The humble person keeps her accomplishments, gifts, and talents in a proper perspective. She has self-knowledge, and is aware of her limitations as an individual and as a human being. But humble individuals are also oriented towards others, they value the welfare of other people and have the ability to "forget themselves" as well, when appropriate.
Interestingly, the empirical research on humility shows that this trait has great value. Humility has been linked with better academic performance, job performance, and excellence in leadership. Humble people have better social relationships, avoid deception in their social interactions, and they tend to be forgiving, grateful, and cooperative. A recent set of studies also shows that humility is a consistent predictor of generosity.1 People who are humble tend to be more generous with both their time and their money.

Some philosophers historically have not been impressed with humility. Aristotle leaves it out of his catalogue of virtues, while both David Hume and Friedrich Nietzsche are critical of this trait.
Hume, for example, says:

"Celibacy, fasting, penance, mortification, self-denial, humility, silence, solitude, and the whole train of monkish virtues; for what reason are they everywhere rejected by men of sense, but because they serve to no manner of purpose; neither advance a man’s fortune in the world, nor render him a more valuable member of society; neither qualify him for the entertainment of company, nor increase his power of self-enjoyment? We observe, on the contrary, that they cross all these desirable ends; stupefy the understanding and harden the heart, obscure the fancy and sour the temper. We justly, therefore, transfer them to the opposite column, and place them in the catalogue of vices"2

However, the empirical evidence seems to show that this sort of criticism of humility is mistaken. Humility can advance one's fortune in the world, as it is a distinguishing trait of CEO's of successful organizations. The connection between humility and generosity shows that it does render one a more valuable member of society. Others see humble individuals as well-adjusted and kind. It looks like the empirical evidence about the value of humility shows us that Hume's rejection of it was a mistake.
Given its appropriateness for us as limited and fallible human beings, and its value for both individual flourishing and social welfare, humility is a trait worth cultivating.



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1 Julie Exline and Peter Hill, "Humility: A consistent and robust predictor of generosity," The Journal of Positive Psychology (May 2012): 208-218. This article contains the references related to the other empirical findings related to humility discussed above.
2 An Enquiry into the Principles of Morals (Indianapolis: Hackett, 1983), pp. 73-74.