Self Esteem vs. Self Compassion
We have all heard about self-esteem and the pros and cons of either having too much or not enough, but here is a different take ~ Self-Compassion. I like this blog post because it links back to Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) techniques, as well as, methods we use in Positive Psychology: e.g., being mindful.
Check it out:
http://blog.pickcrew.com/truth-about-self-esteem/
Tell me what you think? What this blog helpful? Does it send the right message to help you in your search of balance over the self?
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Friday, July 25, 2014
The-5-Most-Popular-Pieces-I-Have-Ever-Written by Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener
Check out the most popular blog posts by the "Indiana Jones" of Positive Psychology: Dr. Robert Biswas-Diener.
http://myemail.constantcontact.com/The-5-Most-Popular-Pieces-I-Have-Ever-Written.html?soid=1102621930729&aid=lMCNVhw6lb8
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The 5 Most Popular Pieces I Have Ever Written
Over the years there have been a few pieces of writing I have done that have really captured public interest. Here is a greatest hits of sorts of topics ranging from revenge to happiness. I hope you enjoy them and share them with others:
1. What happy people do differently:
In this cover article from Psychology Today co-author Todd Kashdan and I offer a new take on happiness.
2. Revenge is good for you:
Everyone knows that revenge is bad. Except for when it is good.
3. 5 Myths about positive psychology:
Because it is positive people want to believe in positive psychology. Although there are many terrific scientific findings emerging from this field there are some that have been mis-interpreted.
4. Are hook-ups psychologically healthy?
I wrote an uncharacteristic piece on sex just to see how popular a topic it is. More than 80 thousand people read the post and the number grows daily. Read it to see what's so tantalizing!
5. Your happiest days are behind you.
In this TEDx talk I argue that the past is an overlooked repository of happiness. I also have the opportunity to tell one of my favorite stories:
You will find breaking news, fascinating research results, the best blogs and other great material. https://www. facebook.com/PositiveAcorn
Sunday, July 6, 2014
Tips on Communication:
Mastering how, and when, to communicate
effectively is one of the most important skills one can learn....
"It's better to say nothing, than spend 1000 words or an hour speech saying nothing. Get to the point - fast" ~ Richard Branson
Advice
on giving speeches:
When
will people realize that a short speech is so much better than a long speech?
In the same way most business pitches can be done on the back of an envelope,
most of what anybody has to say of great note can fit on one side of paper.
As
somebody who is fortunate enough to be asked to stand onstage every now and
then, I am always very conscious of wanting to get across the message without
boring everybody to tears.
I’ve
written before about how nervous I still get when speaking in front of an
audience, and why it is always better to speak from the heart. Also, 90%
of the time it is better to ad-lib rather than read from contrived speech
notes. Even if you forget certain points you wanted to make, the people who are
listening always desperately want hear your passion, not just your theory.
Even
if you have been asked to do a serious speech, try to come up with witty lines
to make people laugh, especially at the beginning and end. Start making people
smile, have a laugh in the middle, be sure to include a bit of serious stuff
either side of that, but end on a smile. This is good advice for wedding
speeches in particular!
I
remember following somebody in Japan who droned on for two hours; I just looked
around and every single person was sound asleep. I'd been asked to do a one and
a half hour speech to follow up.
When
I saw what was happening, I wouldn't do a speech at all; I got on stage and
asked the audience to interact with me. After 40 minutes I left on a high,
everyone was enjoying it - and was awake!
The
organizers were looking rather annoyed and ordered me back onstage, but I
successfully argued it was better to end on a high note than keep to a time
limit.
What
I learned from that was never to do a formal speech. Now I do Q&A sessions
to raise funds for our not-for-profit foundation Virgin Unite, and try to get people involved. I just take
whatever comes, whether it is serious questions, jokes or business pitches. If
somebody wants a photo, I invite them up, I have a laugh with them. If somebody
tries to sell something to me, I let the audience judge business ideas.
~Richard
Branson
Wednesday, July 2, 2014
Are you a humble leader?
Moral
wisdom for the modern world
by
Michael Austin
Humility: Humility
is a trait worth having.
Published
on June 27, 2012 by Michael W. Austin in Ethics for Everyone
*The violet is a symbol for humility, in some traditions. |
Recent studies show that humility is connected with many forms of
pro-social behavior. While some misunderstand humility as low self-esteem or
self-denigration, a proper conception of this virtue has both self-regarding
and other-regarding components. The humble person keeps her accomplishments,
gifts, and talents in a proper perspective. She has self-knowledge, and is
aware of her limitations as an individual and as a human being. But humble
individuals are also oriented towards others, they value the welfare of other
people and have the ability to "forget themselves" as well, when
appropriate.
Interestingly, the empirical research
on humility shows that this trait has
great value. Humility has been linked with better academic performance, job
performance, and excellence in leadership.
Humble people have better social relationships, avoid deception in their
social interactions, and they tend to be forgiving, grateful, and cooperative.
A recent set of studies also shows that humility is a consistent predictor of
generosity.1 People who are humble tend to be more generous
with both their time and their money.
Some philosophers historically have not been impressed with
humility. Aristotle leaves it out of his catalogue of virtues, while both David
Hume and Friedrich Nietzsche are critical of this trait.
Hume, for example, says:
"Celibacy, fasting, penance,
mortification, self-denial, humility, silence, solitude, and the whole train of
monkish virtues; for what reason are they everywhere rejected by men of sense,
but because they serve to no manner of purpose; neither advance a man’s fortune
in the world, nor render him a more valuable member of society; neither qualify
him for the entertainment of company, nor increase his power of self-enjoyment?
We observe, on the contrary, that they cross all these desirable ends; stupefy
the understanding and harden the heart, obscure the fancy and sour the temper.
We justly, therefore, transfer them to the opposite column, and place them in
the catalogue of vices"2
However, the empirical evidence seems
to show that this sort of criticism of humility is mistaken. Humility can
advance one's fortune in the world, as it is a distinguishing trait of CEO's of
successful organizations. The connection between humility and generosity shows
that it does render one a more valuable member of society. Others see humble individuals
as well-adjusted and kind. It looks like the empirical evidence about the value
of humility shows us that Hume's rejection of it was a mistake.
Given its appropriateness for us as
limited and fallible human beings, and its value for both individual
flourishing and social welfare, humility is a trait worth cultivating.
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1 Julie Exline and
Peter Hill, "Humility: A consistent and robust predictor of
generosity," The Journal of Positive
Psychology (May 2012): 208-218. This article contains the
references related to the other empirical findings related to humility
discussed above.
2 An Enquiry into
the Principles of Morals (Indianapolis:
Hackett, 1983), pp. 73-74.
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